Betrayal is a form of emotional abuse. Guilting, belittling, deflecting responsibility, isolation, intensity, volatility, jealousy, sabotage and manipulation are also all forms of abuse.

For most of us on any given day, we have the things that go right and the things that go wrong. Let’s face it! On most days, we experience many frustrations.The same is actually true of our relationships and our healing.

What causes marriages to fail? What drives couples apart? What can couples do to avoid becoming a statistic? Is it infidelity? Affairs? Pornography? Marital Betrayal? This article takes a good look at the many things that destroy marriages today, and hones in on one trait that most people never think of - exhaustion.

When it comes to affair recovery, the most important thing is to TELL THE TRUTH! This article explains why telling the truth is essential and what happens when the unfaithful spouse does not tell the truth?

For many Father’s Day is a painful day. If the father of your children is having an affair, if your father is deceased, if the relationship with your father is strained, if you are a good man, but your wife has been unfaithful. In this article we discuss 6 qualities of a good father.

How do you get through Covid Thanksgiving while you are also Surviving Betrayal?

A comprehensive short list of best books for dealing with an affair, highly recommended by members of BAN - Beyond Affairs Network Affair Recovery Support

UNDISCLOSED AFFAIRS: “What if I’ve had an affair, but now I’ve ended it. I’m sorry for what I’ve done. Should I confess? I’m afraid it would just hurt my spouse unnecessarily. Since it’s over why tell? Won’t that just cause more harm than good?

Could pornography use be diminishing sexual intimacy in your relationship? Is pornography a stepping stone to infidelity with real men and women?

What to do when Covid-19, Self-Quarantine & Affair Recovery are all happening at the same time. It's like a double Tsunami!

Answers to your questions about dealing with a spouse's ongoing affair.

Your marriage can be saved. But is it worth it to try to save yours? What are the criteria?

Some people wonder; Is staying after an affair a sign of weakness? Can you respect yourself if you stay? Others ask: Is it not rather a sign of strength?

What happens if the cheating spouse loves the other woman or other man and how do you recover from infidelity and adultery when love is a factor?

In this article you'll learn 9 keys to restoring sexual intimacy after infidelity. An affair always has a profound affect on a couple’s sex life.

In this podcast, Anne Bercht shares the pathway to forgiveness and acceptance after an affair or any kind of betrayal or infidelity.

How do I change my spouse ?  At the beginning of every Healing from Affairs Intensive Weekend for couples in affair recovery, where couples receive a roadmap and all the tools to navigate their own journey, and make good decisions, whether that means staying or going … we know that almost every wife enters that seminar room …

There is often a thin line between anger and hatred. After I discovered my husbands’ unfaithfulness, I found myself grappling with strong emotions of anger and hatred, murder and revenge, emotions so strong, I didn’t know I was capable of feeling such things. I couldn’t imagine ever getting past anger I felt.

There is always hope for a good marriage after betrayal if both people are willing to give the marriage a chance and do their own part in the healing. That said, many healed marriages began their healing journey with only one partner being willing.

We imagine our beloved in the arms of another and we wince … We find ourselves plagued with murderous thoughts. We think about our now scarred marriage and wonder if we can ever be happy again. We beat ourselves up, convincing ourselves that we must be inadequate in some way that this has happened to …

Happy Mother’s Day – Whose “candle” can you light today? You have most likely found our website because either you or someone you love has had their world rocked by the devastation, chaos and hurt that infidelity causes – one of the biggest things to divide families, and destroy relationships. And now today is Mother’s …

For men: Following through on doing the right thing. "For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do"! Do you ever struggle doing the right thing? Do you ever struggle not doing the wrong thing?

Important Keys to Healing a Marriage after an Affair by Affair Recovery Specialists Brian and Anne Bercht. Learn the steps to recovery. Avoid mistakes!

Dear Anne – Next week I will be dealing with anniversary of trauma. It will be the anniversary of D-day. How do we make it through this anniversary date?

Anne Bercht shares from her heart about her affair recovery, grieving and the loss of her son and the story you tell yourself.

Is staying in a marriage after an affair stupid? On the news currently, some politicians are calling those spouses who stay after an affair “stupid”

A New Year - Secrets of Success. “The only thing that stands between a person and what they want from life is merely the will to try it and the faith to believe it is possible.”

What do you do with your anger after your spouse has an affair? Get advice on how to deal with your anger in a healthy way.

Should I fight for my marriage? … or would doing so weaken my position? And perhaps even set me up for continued abuse?

Why should I work on myself? – My spouse had the affair! Dear Anne – I keep reading that I should “work on myself,” but my spouse is the one who had the affair! They are the one with the problem. Why should I do the work? I think they should be the one working on them.

This teleseminar is for men doing the right thing and includes Brian Bercht and other men's testimony on doing the right thing.

How to talk about the affair. You need to understand that there are three stages of discussion. Also, how come he/she didn't love me? Anne & Brian have personally dealt with an affair

It's hard to heal from an affair when your spouse works with the affair partner. Learn ways to heal when your spouse works with the other person.

Read this article about receiving a Christmas miracle. An affair can be one of the most painful things to experience in life and marriage.

how to cope with wife having an affair. Nothing works. Nothing. I am so devastated I don't even want to wake up in the mornings. And this is not a few days after

When past abuse hinders affair recovery, is there a place during the healing process, where my spouse should get help for the childhood issues that seem to to hinder recovery?

A letter from a guest at a Passionate Life Seminar

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN: Nearly two years ago my world fell apart with the revelation of my husband’s affair with a coworker. Like many others in this situation, I had no idea where to turn. I read as many books and articles as I could find and while they have been part of my …

Your struggle is in your thoughts, in the meanings that you are attaching to what has happened to you. If your husband has changed his ways, been willing to participate in counseling/coaching or seminars, read books, discuss them, and truthfully answer your questions about the affair.

My unfaithful spouse says he never had a deep emotional connection with me. Is there hope for our marriage? When the emotional affair has been so strong?

Specific steps - help for Unfaithful Wife. Yes, you can heal your marriage after your affair, but there are specific steps you need to take, to get on the right path.

No matter how impossible healing from an affair may seem right now, I want to encourage you not to give up on your marriage too soon.

January 13, 2014 Gayle Ruud has been my Relationship/Affair Recovery Coach during the past 7 months. After 40 years of marriage my husband had an 8 month long affair with a co-worker who was 16 years younger than him. I was devastated and I experienced the worst pain and heartache of my life. Gayle allowed …

10 PRINCIPLES OF SUCCESS IN AFFAIR RECOVERY, Affair Recovery Steps: As long as we live our lives circumstantially, reacting to the latest thing that happens, we find ourselves uncertain

Life Coach Gayle Ruud navigated the pain of divorce after her husband's infidelity. Now she helps others find their way to healing after betrayal.

A letter of recommendation for Gayle Ruud

I never thought I would be among the women with cheating husbands.

I was broken and lost after I discovered my husband was unfaithful. After attending this program, a close girl-friend said she can not believe the change in me. She said she sees a radiance coming out of me that she has never see before (she has known me for the past 6 years). She cannot believe the transformation.

In order to save your marriage after adultery as a couple you need to be able to discuss the affair.

When my husband had affair, I was lost and confused.

My husband said he loved someone else and had slept with her. He said he didn’t love me anymore.

The more I learn about extramarital affairs, the more amazed I am that Society generally fails to see the elephant in the room when it comes to the causes of infidelity.

This website offers the most comprehensive resource for understanding and surviving betrayal. More than 100 free articles and audio recordings! The most practical and heartfelt coaching.

Patterns of betrayal go beyond betrayal of marriage vows.

I recently attended the Healing From an Affair workshop presented by Anne and Brian Bercht as a therapist-observer.

The first step in healing from affairs is getting some support.

Learning to forgive my husband's affair through Take Your Life Back

Answering the question: How can I be a better wife, from the perspective of a healed affair survivor

Secrets To A Happy Marriage - After more than 30 years of marriage I still look at my husband and think, "Wow! What a wonderful, smart, compassionate and intelligent man!"

Answering the question: How do you forgive yourself for having an affair?

A story of the pain of infidelity and finding hope and recovery against all odds.

If I divorce after infidelity, how will I ever find someone to love me? I wondered. Should I continue in this relationship or should I move on?

This is an Extramarital Affair Blog Poem written by a participant of the Take Your Life Back seminar. A Healing Time - Reflections on the Take Back Your Life Seminar

The Passionate Life Infidelity Recovery Coach help we are receiving has been really helpful to us.

Surviving Infidelity by taking the Healing From Affairs Seminar. As funny as it sounds, we had a wonderful weekend at Healing from Affairs.

About the Passionate Life Seminars Healing From Affairs recovery weekend

Your healing from affairs seminar and tele seminars was the best affair midlife crisis help and we wouldn't of made it through without it.

Dear Anne and Brian, we are still together, working on our marriage.

Dear Marital Affair Survivor, How do you go about creating a happy life after an affair? It isn't easy, but it can be done. One step at a time.

I can say without hesitation that attending the Healing From Affairs seminar was one of the best decisions we’ve made in our entire marriage

Myths And Facts About Extramarital Affairs and how to know the difference from Passionate Life Seminars and Beyondaffairs Network.

The Healing from Extramarital affairs weekend was fabulous! I could tell that Anne put a lot of work into developing the structure of the seminar

I just found out my husband is having an affair. You are not alone. There is strength in knowing others are going through affair recovery with you.

Top 10 Signs Of Infidelity if you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you or having an affair.

Disclosure and Recovering from an Affair written ... the night her husband confessed his affairs.So finally – the truth. I am relieved as I am nauseous. I feel

Reading good affair recovery and relationship books can play a key role in getting past an affair.

Should I meet the other woman or other man after my spouse has had an affair? This article will explain your options.

Answers to the common question of how could this affair happen to us in our marriage?

Advice on how to put an affair behind you while still talking about it.

Comments from the Sept. 11th 2008 Oprah show on cheating featuring Anne and Brian Bercht from Beyond Affairs Network.

What do you do when your unfaithful spouse won't answer your questions?

How long does it take to heal from an affair comments by Anne Bercht, Director of the Beyond Affairs Network, and author of My Husband's Affair Became the Best

A discussion of the stages of healing from infidelity and what to expect during your recovery as a couple in marriage.

What to do if your husband or wife wants to read emails from an affair.

Some thoughts on what does your life count for after an affair by Anne Bercht of Passionate Life Seminars

How to make it through the pressure of the holidays after an affair during your recovery from infidelity.

When your spouse has had multiple affairs, what do you do to make sure your spouse doesn't cheat again.

What to do if your unfaithful spouse refuses to do their part in the healing.

How to be a friend to someone whose spouse has been unfaithful.

Key things to focus on to help you heal from an affair and create a better life on the other side, knowing that whatever you focus on expands.

Why is the betrayer willing to throw their marriage and family away just for a fling?

Emotional Intelligence- dealing with anger after an affair.

My spouse refuses to come to marriage counseling with me after his extramarital affair. How can I heal from an affair when my spouse does not try to help?

What are the unique challenges these husbands & wives face when your wife cheats on you?

How do you get past the hard stuff in life, face your failures with courage, and create a better tomorrow?

Answering the question of how to heal from an affair after my husband gave me an STD.

Generational patterns of extramarital affairs have a way of repeating themselves and there is a good chance there has been one in your parents marriage,

What to do when an unfaithful spouse is undecided and you want to move forward in your life and relationship.

What I accomplished in the year following D-day, the day I discovered my husband had been cheating by Susan. I got STD tested, I started making half pots of coffee, I let the dog sleep with me and I’ve cried harder than I ever thought possible.