Our Private Intensive Couples Retreat is for couples dealing with infidelity who are seeking complete anonymity, privacy, and bespoke one-on-one attention from Anne and Brian Bercht.
Is a Private Intensive Right for You?
Consider a Private Intensive if any of the following apply:
- You can’t — or don’t want to — wait for the next group Healing From Affairs retreat.
- Life circumstances (children, work, prior commitments) prevent you from attending the next scheduled weekend.
- You require the highest levels of discretion due to your occupation or public profile.
- There are situations or issues that would best be addressed privately, couple to couple.
What to Expect
Private Intensives allow Anne and Brian to focus on the specific issues and concerns you face, without spending time on areas that may be less applicable to your unique situation. They will formulate a customized healing roadmap designed to help you reach your desired outcome.
Before the intensive, you will be provided some questionnaires that will help to identify the important and unique issues, history, and personality traits of you both as individuals, and then your marriage dynamic together. This begins a therapeutic process, and helps Anne & Brian to prepare your unique roadmap before you even arrive.
Both husband and wife can expect to feel fully heard, understood and seen, as we move through healing milestones such as:
- Understanding each others needs, fears, and values
- Setting a foundation for healthy communication
- Full disclosure and proper ending of the affair or unfaithful behaviors
- Discovering the root causes behind the infidelity
- What needs to change to ensure this never happens again
- What healthy affair prevention boundaries look like
- How to process anger in healthy ways
- Rebuild self-esteem
- Learn how to rebuild trust
- What true forgiveness looks like and how to get there
- How to restore intimacy, both emotional and physical after infidelity
- Addressing marital issues
- Any other issues unique to you and your marriage
One of the advantages of working with Brian and Anne is that you have represented at all times the voice of betrayed and betrayer, man and woman, introvert vs extrovert, direct vs soft approach, because together Brian and Anne each uniquely represent these entities.
You can expect a compassionate and accepting approach, with neither of you being shamed or viewed as a bad person. Brian and Anne do not take sides, except that they are on the side of your marriage together.
You can also expect not to feel pushed or pressured into anything, not even pushed to stay in your marriage, but rather supported in gaining clarity about what is right for you. Even sometimes when marriages are not restored, both husband and wife find a private intensive helps them to heal the past, so they are not carrying the baggage of unhealed wounds into their future.
If you are a Christian couple you can expect a Christ-centered Biblical approach. If you are of another faith, or agnostic, we will support you through your own worldview.
“Brian and I are more in love and stronger than ever after Brian’s affair in 2000. I have no more pain attached to the memory of the affair. Candidly, we will take you through the processes required for genuine healing.”
Anne Bercht
How Long?
For the full healing experience a private intensive requires 3 days, generally about 8 hours in length. While that sounds like a long time, you will find that the days are very engaging and go by quickly, and of course breaks are taken whenever and however long are needed. If need be we may spend a bit longer or shorter on any give day. This is your time. Start time is generally 9 am each morning, but again we are happy to customize to your preference. We often find a shorter time is needed on the 3rd day.
Where?
These private intensives are generally conducted in the comfortable and personal space of Anne & Brian’s private home in Beavercreek, Ohio (near Dayton). Recommended accommodation nearby is the Springhill Suites by Marriott Dayton Beavercreek, just 13 minutes away. However, other locations can also be considered. The retreat is custom-designed around your convenience and needs.
When?
We will find mutually agreeable dates, which can be midweek or weekend, whatever suits your schedule best.
Get in Touch
To learn more about Private Intensives and/or to discuss whether this is the right fit for you, reach out to Brian directly. Every enquiry is handled with complete personal care and confidentiality.