When an Affair Shatters Your Marriage, You Don’t Need Another Marriage Weekend.
You need marital triage.
When infidelity is discovered, life as you knew it changes in an instant.
One spouse is left devastated, desperately searching for answers, wondering if they will ever feel safe again.
The other is often overwhelmed by shame, regret, confusion, and uncertainty about how to make things right.
Conversations become arguments.
Trust has disappeared.
Decisions feel overwhelming.
Friends and family often don’t know how to help.
Even good counseling can feel frustrating when you’re trying to fit the biggest crisis of your life into one hour a week.
We understand.
Because we’ve been there.
Healing From Affairs® is the three-day intensive Brian and Anne Bercht wish had existed when their own marriage was fighting for survival.
Over the past two decades, they have refined that experience into a proven roadmap that has helped thousands of couples rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and create marriages that are often stronger than they ever believed possible.
This isn’t a marriage enrichment retreat.
It’s a carefully designed intervention for couples whose world has been turned upside down by infidelity.
Whether you’ve just discovered the affair or you’ve been struggling for years, Healing from Affairs provides the clarity, practical tools, personal guidance, and hope needed to move forward—together.
Because while an affair may have shattered your marriage…
it does not have to define your future.
To Learn More About Healing From Affairs® and find out if it is right for you
Why Healing From Affairs Exists
Once Brian and Anne had rebuilt their own marriage, they found themselves asking a question they couldn’t ignore.
Why wasn’t anyone addressing affairs head on?
Infidelity is one of the most devastating experiences a marriage can endure, yet much of the help they encountered treated it like ordinary marital conflict.
It isn’t.
Healing from infidelity requires understanding betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, restoring safety, addressing the unique needs of both spouses, and creating lasting change that reaches far beyond simply “improving communication.”
Determined to change that, Brian and Anne combined what they had learned through their own recovery with years of study, research, and hands-on experience helping couples—first as volunteers, and later through Beyond Affairs.
As they worked with hundreds, and eventually thousands, of couples, clear patterns began to emerge.
They discovered that while every marriage and every affair is unique, the journey toward healing follows remarkably consistent milestones.
From those insights they developed a practical roadmap for affair recovery—and then designed immersive experiences that help couples move beyond simply understanding the principles intellectually to actually experiencing the heart changes that make lasting healing possible.
Why Healing from Affairs Is Different
Most marriage programs are designed to help good marriages become better.
Healing From Affairs® was designed for marriages that have been devastated by infidelity.
That’s an important difference.
When an affair is discovered, couples aren’t simply struggling with communication. They are facing betrayal trauma, shattered trust, overwhelming emotions, unanswered questions, and uncertainty about whether their marriage can even survive.
Those realities require a different approach.
Healing From Affairs® was created specifically to address the unique challenges couples face after infidelity.
Over three days, we help you understand not only what happened, but why it happened. We guide you through rebuilding safety, restoring trust, improving communication, understanding the deeper vulnerabilities that contributed to the affair, and creating a practical roadmap for a stronger future.
“We were able to go back to the beginning and properly address the ‘why.'”
— Tim & Joanne
Information changes minds.
Transformation changes marriages.
Most couples already know they should communicate better.
They know they should listen more carefully.
They know trust has to be rebuilt.
The real challenge is learning how.
That’s why Healing From Affairs® is designed as an immersive experience rather than a series of lectures.
Throughout the weekend, you’ll participate in guided exercises, conversations, breakout sessions, and practical experiences that help move these principles from your head to your heart.
Because lasting healing doesn’t happen simply when you understand new ideas.
It happens when those ideas begin changing the way you see yourself, your spouse, and your future together.
Our goal isn’t simply for you to leave knowing more about affair recovery.
Our goal is for you to leave with a clear roadmap, practical tools, and renewed hope that healing is possible.
There Are No Bad People Here
One of the biggest fears couples have before attending Healing From Affairs® is this:
“Which one of us is going to be blamed?”
For the betrayed spouse, the fear is that the affair will be minimized or explained away.
For the spouse who acted unfaithfully, the fear is that they will be shamed, judged, or treated as though they are beyond redemption.
Neither happens here.
At Healing from Affairs, we believe something that surprises many couples:
There are no bad people here.
There are deeply hurting people.
There is a broken marriage.
Poor choices have caused tremendous pain.
The past cannot be changed.
But your future is still being written.
Where do we go from here?
Two people now have very different healing journeys ahead of them, and yet they need to do it together.
We never excuse an affair. Infidelity is not okay.
At the same time, responsibility is very different from condemnation.
“As the betrayed spouse, it was incredibly validating to hear that I wasn’t the problem.”
— J.D., Maryland
A person’s identity is not their worst deed.
People grow when they are challenged, understood, and given a clear path forward—not when they are humiliated.
Throughout the weekend, both spouses are seen, heard, and challenged.
Both spouses are equipped with practical tools for healing.
Many unfaithful spouses arrive expecting to spend the weekend defending themselves.
Instead, they often leave saying,
“For the first time, I felt understood.”
Many betrayed spouses arrive wondering if anyone could possibly understand the depth of their pain.
They leave knowing they are no longer walking that road alone.
Healing begins when both people feel safe enough to face the truth.
That’s the environment we work hard to create.
Why Three Days Changes Everything
We believe good counseling can be incredibly valuable, and we encourage many couples to continue working with their therapist throughout the healing process.
But when a marriage has been devastated by infidelity, an hour a week often isn’t enough to stabilize the crisis.
Anne still remembers looking at the clock at the end of one counseling session and thinking,
“You’ve got to be kidding me. You’re sending me back to live with him for another week?”
That experience became one of the reasons Healing From Affairs® was created.
Many couples leave a counseling session feeling encouraged—only to return home to the same unanswered questions, painful triggers, and overwhelming emotions. By the time the next appointment arrives, they’re often right back where they started.
Healing From Affairs® provides something counseling simply isn’t designed to provide: uninterrupted time.
For three days, you step away from the demands of work, children, schedules, and everyday life to focus on one thing—your marriage.
Together, we’ll help you slow the chaos, establish a foundation for healing, and begin making meaningful progress before you return home.
The immersive nature of the weekend allows conversations to continue instead of being cut short by the clock. Questions get answered. Misunderstandings are untangled. Breakthroughs have time to unfold.
Many couples tell us they accomplish more during one Healing From Affairs® weekend than they imagined possible.
“We never would have believed it was possible to repair our marriage.”
— Julia, Vancouver, Canada
Not because we have all the answers.
But because healing requires more than information.
It requires time.
Time to breathe.
Time to listen.
Time to ask questions.
Time to understand.
Time to practice.
Time to begin healing together.
Many couples also discover that after attending Healing From Affairs®, their ongoing counseling becomes even more productive because they now have a shared framework, practical tools, and a clearer understanding of how to move forward together.
Led by Brian and Anne Bercht
There are many people who can teach relationship skills.
There are many people who understand marriage.
There are far fewer who have personally walked through the devastation of infidelity, rebuilt their own marriage, and then spent decades helping thousands of other couples do the same.
Brian and Anne Bercht are two of those people.
Long before Beyond Affairs existed, they were simply a husband and wife trying to find their way through one of the darkest seasons of their lives.
They know what it feels like to wonder whether a marriage can survive.
They know the confusion.
The anger.
The shame.
The unanswered questions.
The fear of making the wrong decision.
And they know what it takes to rebuild—not because they read it in a book, but because they lived it.
Once they had rebuilt their own marriage, they dedicated themselves to understanding affair recovery at a deeper level. They combined their personal experience with years of study, coaching, teaching, and working alongside thousands of couples to develop one of the most comprehensive affair recovery programs available today.
Together, they bring something uniquely powerful to the weekend.
Anne understands the journey of the betrayed spouse from the inside.
Brian understands the journey of the spouse who acted unfaithfully from the inside.
Together, they help each spouse feel seen, understood, and challenged in ways that would be difficult for either of them to do alone.
Perhaps what makes Healing From Affairs® most unique is that Brian and Anne don’t simply stand at the front of the room and teach.
They model what healing can look like; honest communication, mutual respect, and hope.
Couples often tell us that simply watching Brian and Anne interact throughout the weekend gives them a new vision of what is possible for their own marriage.
Because the greatest message they bring isn’t simply that marriages can survive infidelity.
It’s that, with truth, courage, and intentional effort, they can become healthy, joyful, and deeply connected again.
What You’ll Experience During the Weekend
Healing From Affairs® is much more than a series of presentations.
It’s a carefully designed journey that guides you from crisis toward clarity—one step at a time.
We begin by creating something every hurting marriage needs: safety.
Through practical communication tools, personality insights, and guided conversations, you’ll begin learning how to talk with one another in ways that reduce defensiveness, increase understanding, and create space for healing.
From there, we address the difficult questions so many couples struggle to answer.
Why did the affair happen?
What needs to change to ensure it never happens again?
How do we rebuild trust?
How do we deal with anger, shame, guilt, and obsessive thoughts?
How do we forgive?
How do we restore emotional and sexual intimacy?
Throughout the weekend, there are times when husbands and wives meet together, and times when they separate into breakout sessions with Brian or Anne.
These sessions allow each spouse to explore the unique challenges they face while receiving guidance from someone who has personally walked that same path.
One of the most meaningful experiences comes when each group has the opportunity to hear from the “other side.”
The spouse who acted unfaithfully begins to understand the depth of betrayal through the eyes of those who have lived it.
The betrayed spouse gains insight into the struggles, fears, and growth of those who have taken responsibility for their choices.
These conversations often replace assumptions with understanding and become turning points in a couple’s healing journey.
Throughout the weekend, you’ll also receive practical tools that you can continue using long after you return home.
Our goal isn’t simply to help you have a meaningful weekend.
It’s to help you build a marriage that is stronger, healthier, and more resilient for years to come.
Why Healing Happens Here
People often ask us,
“What is it about Healing From Affairs® that makes it so impactful?”
The truth is, there isn’t just one answer.
It’s the combination of many carefully designed experiences working together.
Throughout the weekend, you’ll be surrounded by couples who understand what you’re going through—not because they studied it, but because they’ve lived it.
Our mentoring couples have rebuilt their own marriages after infidelity. They don’t come to impress you with perfect marriages. They come to offer hope that healing is possible.
Again and again, couples tell us that some of their biggest breakthroughs came from an unexpected conversation during a break, a comment from another couple, or simply realizing they weren’t as alone as they had believed.
There is something profoundly healing about discovering that your story, while deeply personal, is not unique.
“One of the most healing parts of the weekend was realizing we were not alone.” It reminds you that there is a path forward.”
— K.D., West Virginia
Throughout the weekend, Brian and Anne intentionally create an environment where honesty is welcomed, questions are encouraged, and people feel safe.
That safety allows conversations to happen that many couples have never been able to have before.
It creates space for understanding.
For accountability.
For grace.
For hope.
And when the weekend ends, your journey of healing and reconnection continues.
Every couple receives lifetime access to the private Beyond Affairs community—a confidential place where you can continue asking questions, receive encouragement, reconnect with the friendships you’ve built, and continue growing long after you return home.
Healing from Affairs isn’t just about what happens during one weekend.
It’s about helping you build a new foundation for the years ahead.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is Healing From Affairs® right for us?
If your marriage has been impacted by infidelity and both of you are willing to come with an open mind, Healing From Affairs® was designed for couples exactly like you.
Some couples attend just weeks after discovering the affair. Others come years later after realizing they’re still stuck. Wherever you are in the journey, there is hope.
What if my spouse isn’t sure they even want to save the marriage?
That’s more common than you might think.
Many couples arrive carrying very different levels of hope and commitment. Our goal isn’t to pressure anyone into making a decision.
Our goal is to help both of you gain clarity, understanding, and the tools needed to move forward with integrity.
Will we have to share our personal story with the group?
No.
While many couples choose to share parts of their journey, no one is ever pressured to disclose personal details they aren’t comfortable sharing.
Creating a safe environment is one of the highest priorities of the weekend.
Will the spouse who had the affair be attacked or shamed?
Absolutely not.
Healing From Affairs® is built on truth, accountability, compassion, and respect.
We never excuse an affair.
We also never believe that humiliation produces lasting change.
What if we’ve already been to counseling?
Many of the couples who attend Healing From Affairs® have already spent months—or even years—in counseling.
Rather than replacing counseling, many couples discover that the retreat complements it beautifully by providing an intensive foundation that makes future counseling even more productive.
Do we have to decide whether to stay married before attending?
No.
Some couples arrive committed to rebuilding.
Others arrive uncertain about their future.
The weekend is designed to help you gain clarity—not pressure you toward a particular decision.
Is this a Christian retreat?
Brian and Anne are both Christians, and the retreat is based on Biblical principles. That said, it is not presented as a Christian marriage retreat per se. Brian and Anne’s philosophy is that when the person you love and trust the most in the world has betrayed the most intimate part of your life, the last thing you need is to be told what you should believe.
Anne and Brian present practical, common sense, street-smart skills. They are committed to sharing these in a neutral manner, and invite the room to hold them accountable to this. They have received some of their greatest praise, from atheists who said it was the first time they felt loved by Christians.
We are confident that if you are a Christian, you will see the Biblical principles throughout, Brian and Anne will show you scriptures supporting what is being taught, and they will pray for you.
We are also confident that if you adhere to a different religion, are agnostic, or atheist, that your worldview will be respected, you will feel accepted and we will be mindful of your beliefs as we lead you through healing.
What’s Included?
- Three full days of teaching and guided experiences
- Complete retreat materials
- Individual personality profiles for both spouses
- Two lunches and refreshments
- Lifetime membership in the private Beyond Affairs community
Retreat Details
Location
Healing From Affairs® is held at The Oasis, Brian and Anne Bercht’s home in Beavercreek, Ohio, just outside Dayton.
The warm, private setting creates an atmosphere where couples can step away from everyday life and focus completely on their marriage.
Group Size
Attendance is intentionally limited to allow every couple to receive personal attention while still benefiting from the wisdom and encouragement of the group.
Up & Coming Dates
July 17 – 19, 2026
December 4 – 6, 2026
Schedule
Friday: 1 pm – 9 or 10 pm, Saturday 9 am – 9 or 10 pm, Sunday 8 am – 4 pm sharp.
Our Promise to You
Brian and Anne believe deeply in the work they do.
If you attend every session, participate fully in the weekend, and honestly believe Healing From Affairs® was not beneficial, we will refund your registration fee, less the hard costs associated with your attendance.
We make that promise because we’ve seen the life-changing impact this weekend has had on thousands of couples, and we stand behind it with confidence.
Your Next Step
If you’ve read this far, chances are your marriage matters deeply to you.
The next step isn’t registering.
It’s having a conversation.
Before every retreat, Brian personally speaks with each couple.
You’ll have the opportunity to ask questions, share a little about your situation, and explore whether Healing From Affairs® is the right next step for your marriage.
There is no pressure.
No obligation.
Just an honest conversation with people who understand what you’re going through.
Your marriage has been through enough.
You don’t have to figure out the next step alone.
One Final Thought
When we were struggling after the affair, we had no idea what our future would look like. If someone had told us that one day we would be standing together helping thousands of other couples rebuild their marriages, we never would have believed them.
Today, we know something we didn’t know then.
Healing is possible.
Not because it’s easy.
But because we’ve lived it, and we’ve watched it happen again and again.
We would be honored to walk this journey with you. – Brian & Anne Bercht
A Therapist Who Attended Writes
As a therapist-observer attending the entire Healing From Affairs® retreat, I came away deeply impressed with both the quality of the program and the experience provided for participants. Anne and Brian offer couples a clear roadmap for healing after infidelity, practical tools for the journey, and guidance grounded in their own lived experience. Throughout the weekend, they modeled the kind of growth, healing, and transformation that is possible when people are willing to do the work.
The couples I observed left with renewed hope and a toolkit to help them move forward.
As a Certified Imago Therapist, I was particularly pleased to see that the program teaches healthy communication tools, including Couples Dialogue. While some couples may benefit from additional therapy and support, I found the retreat provided an excellent framework for healing and growth. I would not hesitate to recommend this workshop to couples seeking recovery after the devastation of an affair.
Toni Pieroni, MA — Registered Clinical Counselor, Certified Imago Therapist, Vancouver, BC