Allison, Sarah and Jody

Anne Bercht explains what the Take Your Life Back Seminar is!
Hear how Allison, Sarah and Jody are healing their lives after their husbands betrayal by clicking on the audio link below!

July 16, 2014 – Allison, Sarah and Jody. Lessons from other betrayed women. Hear their stories!


“I’ve been married 31 years. I’ve known my husband since I was 17 years old, so we’ve actually been together for 39 years. I’ve known of the affair for 5 months. I found out through a nosy person on Facebook. I asked my husband about it, who works in a different city during the week. He responded … with an excruciating long silence. I was falling apart all day. He walked in our house 6 hours later. He had immediately driven home. He didn’t tell me a whole lot, but there was a lot of “I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry.”

“I found out he’d had a physical relationship with this person for 1.5 years. I was absolutely devastated. Then last weekend, I found it was 7 years! So I’m still finding out information. My husband is remorseful, but distant. He is not able to share his feelings very well. I’d like to heal the marriage. That would be my ultimate goal. At the same time I’m open to the fact that it may not happen, and if it doesn’t, I’m going to be okay.

“When I attended Take Your Life Back, I was 2 months from D-day. What hurt the most is that this could be going on for 7 years, and I thought we had a good marriage. It was unbelievable to me that this could happen.

“During his affair we were doing things together all the time, talking on the phone together all the time. I had no idea. So after disclosure, I needed to clear the fog. I needed to do something for me. I’m so glad that I found Take Your Life Back right away. I was afraid that I might be coming to Take Your Life Back so soon. I came into Take Your Life Back such a wreck, and I left with such confidence. When I got home, as soon as I walked through the door, my husband said, “You’ve changed!” He could see it.”


“I’ve been married to my husband for 9 years. Known him 11 years. I found out in January, so when I went to TYLB it was very fresh. He had a physical affair for 6 months, 3 years before, and this fall he had an emotional affair with another person.

“I went to the seminar feeling absolutely lost, in a fog, a daze, I had lost my footing in everything I knew. I felt like a failure. There’s a saying, “Don’t trust anyone” but I had trusted my husband, because he was a strong man of faith. We were attending church, serving in the church, raising our children in a Christian home.

“Both women were from our church. Both women I had warned my husband about, because of my 6th sense. I confronted my husband. He confessed, and my bottom fell out from under me. We’ve reached out for a lot of support. The 3 greatest things that have helped me, was Take Your Life Back, and then couples counseling that was couple to couple. That really makes a difference. And then a book we read.

“What hurt the most is that these things happen to other people, but not to me. I guess I had pride. I just didn’t think this could ever happen to us. As well my husbands affairs happened at a time, when I was going through a really difficult time, post partum. I feel robbed. I feel something has been stolen that I will never be able to get back.”


“I walked into Take Your Life Back and was shocked. I thought “Wow! There are so many beautiful women in this room! I was awestruck by that.” I had been in isolation for 2.5 years. The only resource I’d had prior to TYLB was 27 books I’d read and prayer.

“So when I walked into Take Your Life Back, I was desperate. I had been married since 1977, known my husband since 1972. We celebrated our 36th wedding anniversary this year. I thought we had an excellent marriage, so did everyone in our lives. I was in shock and denial. My husband and I were high profile, featured in magazines etc. We had 2 beautiful children, and recently a beautiful new granddaughter. I found out Sept. 29, 2011, 3 years ago, at 5:30 on a Friday night. My husband walked in confessing after a week of trickle truth. I thought these people were our friends of more than 20 years. The other woman was a god parent to our children. We’d traveled on a wonderful vacation with these people. That was 6 months before the affair started. So it was quite a string of events. After the seminar, I got my “sea legs” to navigate this experience. Coach Gayle at the seminar was also very instrumental in my healing. I don’t know if we are healing our marriage or not yet. He still pays the bills. We do communicate. I learned at TYLB that I did not have any dignity, the way I had been handling it. I also learned that I needed to begin to acknowledge and process my anger, which gave me courage and strength when I got home. Before the seminar, I felt like a failure. My self-esteem was blown apart.”