Does your attitude make a difference when surviving infidelity?

by Chuck Swindoll

The longer I live the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do …

It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company … a church … a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day …

We cannot change our past … we cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one thing we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you … we are in charge of our attitudes. – Charles Swindoll

Does your attitude make a difference when surviving infidelity?
by Anne Bercht

I don’t care who you are, where you’ve been, what you’ve been through or what obstacles you face, you have the power to change your life.

Your decision determines your destiny.

Perhaps this statement makes you angry. You may say, “Wait a minute. Are you saying that I’m where I am at in my life today because of decisions I’ve made in the past? You don’t understand what obstacles I’ve faced. You don’t know what I’ve been through. You don’t know what other people have done to me.” Okay, I understand. You’ve had some really tough breaks. Life has been unfair. But let’s look at this from another angle.

As long as you believe, that you’re a victim of your circumstances, that life just happens to you, some people are lucky and some are not, and unfortunately you’re just one of the unlucky few, you’re powerless. You’re like a ship in the middle of the ocean with no motor and no sail. You’re at the mercy of the ocean currents drifting along in life wherever they happen to take you … or not take you, just swirling around going nowhere. But if you believe your decision determines your destiny, you’re in control of your own future. There is hope for you.

I once attended a conference with the theme: Your Decision Determines Your Destiny. I was so powerfully impacted by that conference that I took the words, Your Decision Determines Your Destiny and taped them to my kitchen cupboard where I would see them every day.

Every day we all get to make lots of decisions. Some of these decisions are small decisions, and some of them are big decisions, but they’re our decisions. We decide what to eat, how to spend our time, our money, who to say yes to, who to say no to, what books we will read, what television we will watch, the list goes on and on. As Charles Swindoll states, even our attitude each day is our choice. No one can make you happy or unhappy. We cannot control everything that happens to us, but we do get to choose how we will react to it.

We can choose to look for the good in every circumstance or we can spend our time complaining and wallowing in self-pity. Beware of the law of attraction, which states: Whatever you focus on expands. Focus on the problem, and you get more problem. Focus on what you want (hopefully good things) and that’s what you’ll attract to you.

Complainers always have a lot of good reasons to complain. The question is which came first, the complaining or the crap. Successful people know when to shut up.

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