How to Survive Christmas After an Affair

So it’s Christmas time and your world is falling apart. Your heart is broken and your world is shattered, and you really have no idea how to survive Christmas after an affair. Take heart! This blog is for you.

I remember going through this myself a number of years ago. There is hope and a future with much joy ahead for you … depending on how you navigate your coming days. You can make it through this! Let me tell you how.

We may not have a choice over what happens to us, but we do have a choice over how we choose to respond to what happens to us.

Chuck Swindoll said, “Life is 10 % what happens to us, and 90% how we choose to respond.”
How did I survive the painful aftermath of my husband’s betrayal and come out happier, wiser, stronger and much more fulfilled on the other side?

I honored the healing process.

First of all, this wasn’t about saving my marriage (although in the beginning I thought it was). This was about saving me. I am only married today because first I chose to give my marriage a chance, and second my husband did the work to grow and change and become a better man. If he had not, I would be divorced, and I still would’ve written a book, and I still would’ve given it the shocking title, My Husband’s Affair BECAME the best thing that ever happened to ME.

I wrote the book, I wish would have had when I found out about my husband’s affair. I knew I had a message the world needed to hear. One of America’s most famous women’s magazines picked up my story and wanted to write an article about me. I needed this free publicity, but there was a huge problem. The editor insisted on fitting my story into her title, “The one thing that saved my marriage was ….”

ONE THING DIDN’T SAVE ME! To be honest, it took 2 seminars, 1.5 years of individual coaching, reading a huge stack of books, hundreds of hours of conversations with my husband, and an attitude that said, “I AM NOT STAYING DOWN!” I could not participate in that article with integrity, so I declined.

You would think everything depended on my husband’s willingness to change. Turns out, instead my victory depended on my willingness to change. And so it is with you! YOUR VICTORY DEPENDS ON YOUR WILLINGNESS TO CHANGE. But change what?

Today, your healing does not need to take nearly as long as it took me, because together with a team of experts we have designed a program just for you that in 3 days can propel you forward in your healing, as much as a year or more of counseling. Why prolong the agony?

Imagine yourself spending 3 days in person, with me, and my awesome team of coaches, ordinary women who have BECOME extraordinary through their own unique healing journeys, and now are there to help you discover the extraordinary woman inside you. You may not believe it now, but she is there.

From the moment you walk in the door, you will be safe and loved. No more need to wear a mask; pretending things are okay when they’re not. We will take you on a journey of transformation, helping you to leave behind all the garbage you’ve had to deal with; all the hurts, the lies, the wounds, the times you were mistreated, and all the painful experiences you didn’t deserve.

We’ll help you to discover what’s right with you, and show you how to tap into strength you didn’t know you had.

You will get all your questions answered.

You’ll gain clarity, strength, peace and even some joy back.

You’ll find yourself able to laugh again.

We’ll help you chart a course for your future through all the chaos and confusion, and give you tools to make smart decisions, and to start believing in yourself again.

You’ll leave with a group of friends … who get it, whom you can reach out to in the weeks and months ahead for a word of support and wisdom when you need it. Invaluable!

The group is small so you won’t be lost in a large crowd.

Would it help, even just a little bit, this Christmas season, if you knew that shortly after Christmas, you’ll be getting a hug from me in Charleston, South Carolina, answers to all your questions, and the tools you need to navigate your future.

Don’t you deserve some help and support? Exactly so you can go back and give the best, the wisest, the most dignified and happiest version of you to the people you love?

This program is for betrayed women only, whether you are divorcing, reconciling your marriage, or you have no idea what you’re going to do.

What better Christmas gift could you have than Taking Your Life Back?!!!

Because I care about you,

Anne Bercht
Author of My Husband’s Affair Became …
Co-Founder, Passionate Life Seminars
Director, BAN, Beyond Affairs Network

Program dates: February 16 – 18, 2019 in Charleston, SC



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