Being cheated on is every person’s worst nightmare. At Beyond Affairs, our purpose is to teach people how to avoid getting there, salvage their relationships, and live happily ever after. But what if things don’t go according to plan? What if, despite your best efforts, your partner cheats on you regardless?
The process of healing from infidelity isn’t easy, but it’s one that you must undertake. Your mental health, as well as your life as a whole, depend on it. We realize how devastating it is to have your loved one trample on your feelings like that. You feel broken, betrayed, and desperate. But it doesn’t need to be like that. You can recover, and you must recover. In this sense, several things can help you:
Shed the guilt!
If your partner cheated on you, all the guilt lies on their shoulders. You mustn’t take the blame for anything because it isn’t you who went that extra step, it’s them. This is your first real sign of progress – assigning blame where blame is due. Many people become blinded by regret and desperation, and end up taking responsibility for what’s happened.
They do so in an attempt to get things back the way they were. But that’s an unhealthy attitude because it will let their partners know they can get away with their behavior. So, avoid taking the blame where you hold none!
Take it easy!
When healing from infidelity, you will be going through a sensitive period. This is not the right time to make critical decisions for your life since you won’t be operating at full rational capacity. Take your time, wait it out, and don’t use emotions to justify your decisions! Many people end up regretting their behavior, and they wish they’d turn back the time.
To prevent that, allow yourself some time to heal! This will keep you safe from bad calls that could change your life for the worse in an instant.
Drive your pain away by force!
The brain acts like a muscle – it reacts to outer stimuli, and it mostly functions automatically. We believe we are in control, but we’re actually not. You cannot choose your emotions. Nobody wants to feel heartache, sadness, stress, grief, anger, or fear. These are all instinctive reactions that we cannot even hope to control.
All you can do is to trick your brain into reacting to new stimuli. Surround yourself with friends, have a good time as often as you can, workout, enjoy yourself! By doing so over and over again, you’ll condition your brain to take in new stimuli.
We admit that healing from infidelity is not an easy process. It usually takes time, and the scars will probably be there for a long time, depending on each person. Check our website, at Beyond Affairs, and learn more about the different stages of healing, and how to leave your pain behind for good!
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