The Healing from Affairs Tele-Seminar Course via phone …
… is an alternative to marriage counselling and the next best thing to the most successful affair recovery program in the world, which is the Healing from Affairs 3-day intensive for couples in person.
Anyone who tells you that something over the phone is better than something in person doesn’t know what they are talking about. That said, for those who are unable to attend Healing from Affairs in person, or need something to help them stop doing further damage and start on the right track right away, until they get there. The Healing from Affairs Tele-Seminar Course is the next best thing to showing up in person.
This program is transformational and a cost-effective affair recovery program. It doesn’t lump affair issues in with other marital issues. Anyone dealing with infidelity understands that affair issues are a category all their own.
Who is the Healing from Affairs Tele-Seminar Course for?
The people who are the best candidates for this program are good people, who meant their marriage vows when they said them, who in other areas are successful in life, but now find themselves dealing with marital betrayal. Whether that betrayal is an emotional affair, a physical affair, or both, the Healing from Affairs Tele-Seminar Course is for you. Whether the betrayal involved pornography, prostitutes, strip clubs etc. or a long-term love affair, multiple affairs or a one-night stand, this program is for you.
All you need to participate is your phone.
How do you define an affair?
We find the word “affair” is a stumbling block for many. In some situations couples argue over whether the “behaviour” was an affair or not. We find such arguments useless, and a distraction from the real issue at hand. One spouse feels the behaviour of the other spouse was beyond the bounds of what they believed their relationship agreement to be, and at the very least, put their marriage at risk. Therefore we prefer to use the word, “betrayal.” A betrayal is any emotional or physical intimacy that belonged in the marriage, but was shared elsewhere and kept secret from your spouse.
What is your approach?
Our approach is not like marriage counseling, where they tend to say, “let’s not talk about the affair, but rather the problems in your marriage that led to the affair.” Counseling and therapy tend to take on a doctor / patient relationship assuming that you are sick and they are the doctor. In counseling, counselors often ask, “what do you think you should do?”
Coaching is best suited to people who are high functioning and generally lead good lives, but are now dealing with infidelity, and with that the upheaval that usually follows disclosure. Our approach is more educational and empowering. We don’t claim to be your healers. You are the ones with the power to heal your own marriage. We will give you the map, the tools, and the encouragement you need. We will give you real hope and real answers.
This program is not specifically designed for every problem you can think of in marriage, like a one-size-fits-all pair of pantyhose. (They never fit all.) Instead this is a custom program specifically for those dealing with betrayal in a committed relationship – infidelity, affair/s.
What if my spouse is not willing to work on our marriage?
This program has a track for those working together as a couple as well as those working alone to save the marriage (because the other person is not on board with saving the marriage, at least not yet). In a higher percentage of couples we work with who do restore their marriages, we start with one spouse seeking help first.
Healing from Affairs Tele-Seminar Course Topics Include:
- How do you know if there is hope for your marriage or not?
- Understanding the journey, the timelines, what to expect
- How to avoid painful mistakes that make everything worse
- How to handle an affair and get it to end
- Is a separation right for you? If so, what’s the best way to go about it?
- How to stop the ugliness
- How to deal effectively with the anger and the pain
- How to make good decisions
- How to win your spouse over if they are not willing to work on the marriage … yet
- How to restore broken trust
- How to reconnect and fall back in love
Think about it. What is your marital mess costing you in emotional pain, zapped strength, ineffectiveness at work, depleted energy, and not being the parent to your children that your kids deserve?
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein
How long does it take to heal from an affair?
We want to be totally up front. This is not a quick fix program. We wish we had a magic pill we could give you that would instantly make everything okay in your marriage, however, it doesn’t work that way. We are not going to promise you that if you register today your marriage will be healed tomorrow. Affair recovery specialists generally agree that it takes two years or more to heal from an affair/s in marriage. We, however, have seen couples heal in as little as a year. We’ve noticed a common denominator among these couples, they are the ones who enlisted our help early on. When we looked back over the difference, between those who healed quickly and those who did not, we realized that it was not the affair itself that did the greatest damage, but rather all the mistakes that husbands and wives make after disclosure that does even more damage. We can help you to a fast track to healing by avoiding these painful detours.
We also want you to know, that while it is unrealistic to see a complete healing from something this big in less than a year, and we also want to acknowledge that the journey tends to be a roller coaster, 4 steps forward, 2 steps back all the way, that things are getting progressively better during your healing journey when you are on the right road – avoiding the painful pitfalls. If you are on the right road, you will be in a better place 4 months from now, than you are now, and so on as you reach each mile marker, until you’ve reached your desired destination.
My husband likens our marriage to a TV. I know. It kind of makes me laugh. But this is what he says:
“When you go into Best Buy and see the top of the line large screen TV’s in the Home Theatre section, They often have footage of the Grand Canyon playing, because the Grand Canyon is spectacular and the colors are so vivid, and seeing it like that on a high quality TV is really good. And that’s how our marriage was before the affair, really good. Today our marriage is like standing at the edge of the cliff at the Grand Canyon. There is no comparison. I don’t care how great it is to see the Grand Canyon on TV. It is multiplied times better in person. And that’s the contrast to how much better our marriage is today.” – Brian Bercht
Everyone’s affair story is different. Some people had difficult marriages before the affair. Some have good marriages before the affair. Either way, your marriage can be so much better on the other side of the devastation you’re experiencing now.
Next Healing from Affairs Tele-Seminar Course Schedule
Monday, July 8, 2019 6 pm PDT/ 9 pm EDT Tele-Seminar 1
Thursday, July 18, 2019 6 pm PDT/ 9 pm EDT Tele-Seminar 2
Thursday, July 25, 2019 6 pm PDT/ 9 pm EDT Tele-Seminar 3
Monday, July 29, 2019 6 pm PDT/ 9 pm EDT Tele-Seminar 4
Thursday, August 8, 2019 6 pm PDT/ 9 pm EDT Tele-Seminar 5
Thursday, August 15, 2019 6 pm PDT/ 9 pm EDT Tele-Seminar 6
Thursday, August 22, 2019 6 pm PDT/ 9 pm EDT Tele-Seminar 7
Thursday, August 29, 2019 6 pm PDT/ 9 pm EDT Tele-Seminar 8
Each Tele-Seminar will vary in length from 1 hour to 1 hour 30 minutes as the time is needed to address your concerns, and a Q & A time will be offered as well.
Your Healing from Affairs Tele-Seminar Course will also include a 30-minute private intake session with Brian or Anne Bercht, so that we can be sure your unique situation is addressed.
One of the great advantages of working with us is the advantage of working with a husband and wife team, and we have personally been through this.
We are able to connect with you on 3 tangents:
- You have the voice of the betrayed and the voice of the one who acted unfaithfully represented at all times.
- You have the voice of a man and a woman represented at all times.
- Brian and Anne are quite opposite in their personalities. If you don’t connect with Brian’s personality style, you will probably connect with Anne’s and vice versa.
What if you miss a tele-seminar? Or what if you are unable to make the dates and times of the seminar live?
Each session will be recorded and the recordings will be available privately to the people in your group only, so you can listen to any missed sessions later. If you are unable to ask your question live, you can email it to us in advance, and we will be sure to address it while maintaining your confidentiality.
per month for 3 months
or a one-time payment of $399 (save $78)
by calling 360-306-3367
Or send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
with the subject line: “I’d like to register for the HFA Tele-Seminar Course”
and we will be in touch to help you complete your registration.
We look forward to helping you get on your path to healing!
Sincerely – Brian & Anne Bercht