You are loveable! You are valuable! You are worthy! I want you to know that no matter how bad things seem for you today, there is hope for you on the other side. No matter how much shame you feel, your shame can be lifted. Don’t give up. It's time to Take Your Life Back.
You are good enough. The hard work you’ve done is enough. If you are the betrayed spouse (despite what our culture tells us), the affair is not about you. When someone mistreats us, the problem lies with the person doing the mistreating, not with the person who is being mistreated.
Yesterday, I experienced a different kind of Easter – one without family – one where I had to work. Easter, Thanksgiving & Christmas have always been for me holidays where it is important to celebrate together with family. We could’ve celebrated with family, but it didn’t work out that way this year. It felt weird – kind of like non-Easter.
At some point during the day, I had a little glance at FaceBook filled with pictures of my friends, family & acquaintances all gathered with smiles and Easter eggs, looking so happy together, and it hit me.
It hit me how hard this would be for those whose families are at this very moment crumbling, hanging in the balance, on the verge of being torn apart forever because of infidelity. I thought, too, about the masks people wear, trying to hold it altogether when their hearts are broken, and they feel they can’t tell anyone. I’ve got answers for you.
I felt compelled to encourage you today. I care about you.
Has your husband been unfaithful?
Is this the most difficult thing you’ve faced in your life?
Are you confused about what to do?
Do you feel isolated and alone, like no one really understands?
I was there once too. I am not there any longer, but I remember what it was like to be there. That is why I designed the Take Your Life Back program especially for betrayed women.
Initially when I designed Take Your Life Back, I imagined serving you Martinis on a beach, while we hugged and cried together. But Take Your Life Back does not involve Martinis or a beach. Why? Because if you have enough money, you can pay someone to serve you Martinis on a beach, and while that might temporarily placate the pain, it won’t help you to live your life one bit better when you go back to face reality.
So instead, at Take Your Life Back we work hard, and by the end of these 3 life-changing days, you will have your peace, joy and self-confidence back, along with clarity about how to move forward, and you will have tapped into strength you didn’t know you had.
Take Your Life Back is for you whether you are reconciling or divorcing. It’s not about healing a relationship. It’s about healing you. However, if it is your desire to heal your relationship, the truth is, it’s a lot more realistic to engage well in couples work after your anger and your broken heart have been addressed, and you have your strength and confidence back.
Healing from an affair/s is not an intellectual journey. It’s a heart journey. Over the 3 days, we will help you to deal with the trauma, get beyond the intense sadness and/or anger, gain perspective, rebuild your self-esteem, and make sound decisions that will help you to move forward in your healing and ultimately live your best life beyond affairs.
Another great benefit is that you will end up with a group of truly great women as friends to support you on your journey. And the great thing is, with technology today, it’s not hard to stay in touch, no matter how far away they live. Better yet, they are not in your personal acquaintanceship circle, so you aren’t risking sharing with people who may gossip, judge you, or be full of unhelpful advice.
Given what you are facing now, if ever there was a time when you deserved to give yourself the gift of the support, wisdom, knowledge & encouragement you need. Now is that time!
Ever since coming home from Take Your Life Back I’ve been doing great! I’ve had several breakthrough moments, directly because of what I learned at the retreat and how I am changed. I am inspired. I cry when I need to, I laugh bigger than I have in months, and my anger has diminished greatly. I was living with my anger like a roommate. I’ve gained self-acceptance and my voice. I’m done being a people pleaser. Take Your Life Back helped me to process all the hurt from my divorce. I am now able to face the challenges of single life. I’m never going to let some guy shame me again and make me doubt myself. – Corrine, Texas
What’s stopping you from registering, and getting the support and answers you need now?
You might say… BUT THE PROGRAM IS TOO EXPENSIVE!
YES, BUT YOU ARE WORTH IT! The program costs what it costs, because we refuse to run anything that is substandard. We limit registrants to 30, and bring in 1 coach for every 5 participants, so that each woman gets the personalized attention she needs specific to her situation. You will not be lost in a crowd. This is not a 9 – 5 program, where you listen to lectures, and get black & white handouts in a church basement.
We meet at the Marriott hotel. Your registration includes quality materials, 2 nights hotel stay, 3 lunches and 24 hours of instruction.
In so many cases, unfaithful husbands have spent thousands on their mistresses, prostitutes, call girls, massage parlors, phone sex or pornography, often lavishing the other women with expensive gifts or giving them money for clothes, accommodations, education, paying off their loans. Therefore $1600 for their wife’s healing is comparatively small.
Other times it’s our perception of priorities. You may not think twice about spending $1600 on a new couch, a vacation, education, or sports for your children. So many times I’ve seen someone say they can’t afford Take Your Life Back, and a couple of months later they are on vacation in Mexico having a terrible time with their unfaithful spouse and their unhealed marriage. For most, we simply have a perception that we shouldn’t have to pay for this kind of healing while we accept other (less important) expenditures as normal. If we need a medical procedure done, it often costs us out of pocket much more, and we don’t think twice about it. The truth is our emotional healing is even more important, because when we are down, we struggle with everything else in our lives. It’s not worth it to remain unhappy.
… BUT I WOULD HAVE TO TRAVEL ACROSS THE COUNTRY ALONE
… YES, BUT WE HAVE WOMEN WHO ATTEND TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD. You can do it. I get that for many this is out of your comfort zone and for many you’ve never travelled without your husband before. Wherever you are coming from, I’d be happy to talk you through your challenge with this over the phone. At the end you will be stronger for it.
… BUT I WANT TO HEAL MY MARRIAGE, AND I’M AFRAID AFTER TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK, I WILL WANT A DIVORCE.
THAT WILL NOT HAPPEN. Take your life back is both for those who are divorcing and for those who are reconciling. We don’t influence you one way or another in the staying or going. Instead we help you get stronger and more sure about what is right for you. If you desire to heal your marriage, and if your husband is a good man doing the right things to help restore your marriage, you are both going to be so glad you came. It will help you to reconcile.
… BUT I WOULD HAVE TO TAKE A DAY OFF WORK.
YES, BUT YOUR HEALING IS WORTH IT. If you were physically ill, you would have to take a day off work. The same applies to being emotionally "sick." When you get your strength back you will be far more effective at your job. For me personally, after my husband’s affair, I was unable to concentrate on my work and took an 8 month leave of absence. Several weeks after I returned to work, healed, my boss called me into his office and literally doubled my salary. He said: “I have no idea what happened to you while you were away, but your worth twice as much now, and I wanted to honor that!” While your story probably won’t be as dramatic as mine, I am confident that one day off work, is going to be more than worth it.
… BUT I WOULD HAVE TO GET A BABYSITTER FOR MY CHILDREN.
DO IT FOR YOUR CHILDREN! YOU WILL BE A MUCH BETTER MOM WHEN YOU’RE HEALED. When we had young children, there were times we needed to leave our children and we never had family close. We always found good people to watch our kids. Often we did exchanges with our kids friends. They took our kids for a weekend, and then we took their kids for a different weekend. I know you are the best person to take care of your children, but (if your children’s father is not willing or able), there are other good people who will take excellent care of your kids. It will be a good experience for them. And multiplied times better when they get their happy and effective mom back.
… BUT MY HUSBAND’S AFFAIR HAPPENED YEARS AGO. IT’S TOO LATE FOR ME TO ATTEND “TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK!”
YES, BUT YOU ARE STILL STUCK. We’ve had women attend “take your life back” whose husband’s affair was 30 years ago. Back then there was no program like this. Take Your Life Back is still completely unique. There is no other program like it. Deep down all that hurt of what happened years ago is still there, still affecting your life today negatively. Time does not heal all wounds. It’s time PLUS doing the right things. No matter how long ago your spouse’s affair/s were, it’s not too late to finally address that pain properly, so you can leave it behind you forever and be truly free.
… BUT MY D-DAY IS SO FRESH. I JUST FOUND OUT. I THINK I NEED MORE TIME, BEFORE I AM READY FOR TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK.
I imagine that you feel afraid that if you attend Take Your Life Back there is going to be this expectation for you to be healed after. Take Your Life Back does not negate your healing journey. It’s time PLUS doing the right things. You cannot take time out of the equation. The great advantage of attending Take Your Life Back early is that from then on you will be able to engage your healing process more intelligently and better equipped. ATTENDING EARLY WILL DIMINISH THE TIME IT TAKES TO HEAL, AND YOU'LL BE ABLE TO AVOID MISTAKES THAT MAKE HEALING EVEN MORE DIFFICULT.
… BUT I AM A PRIVATE PERSON. I HAVEN’T TOLD ANYONE. WHY WOULD I TELL A GROUP OF STRANGERS?
Take your life back gives you the best of both worlds. There is that saying, “no woman is an island.” It’s okay to be a private person, but you are still human. And for us as humans we need others in our life, especially when we are struggling. Our independence often comes from past experiences where we have had to fend for ourselves. The truth is when we tell even a small part of our story to someone who gets it, our own pain diminishes just a little bit. TELLING OTHERS WILL GIVE YOU MORE POWER, MORE STRENGTH AND MORE HEALING. The great thing is when your sharing is exactly with this small group of strangers, who are experiencing the same thing, the human support aids in our healing, and yet, we are free to leave that program and never see any of those people again. No one in your world needs to know where you went for that weekend. So you have still maintained your privacy.