Category Archives: Discovery – Disclosure

Healing from an Affair? No matter how impossible things may seem right now, I want to encourage you not to give up on your marriage too soon. Divorce may seem like the simplest route. It may to you, based on things that have been said and done, be the “only” route. But a theme that runs […]   Read more »

Healing from Affairs Dear Anne, I’m devastated. I just found out my husband’s having an affair, and I can barely function. I am shocked. My husband was a good man and we had a good marriage. I’ve been completely blindsided by this and I feel like an utter fool. I guess, I’ve always judged others […]   Read more »

I Just Found Out My Husband is Having an Affair! You are Not Alone – Unfortunately Extramarital Affairs are Common Dear Fellow Affair Survivors, Last night was quite different than all the other meetings that we have had, simply due to the group being so much larger. We were glad to have a number of […]   Read more »

(These words were written by one affair survivor at three o’clock in the morning, the night her husband confessed his affairs about disclosure and recovering from an affair.) Disclosure and Recovering from an Affair So finally – the truth. I am relieved as I am nauseous…I feel more pity for him then sadness for me…fear […]   Read more »

Question #1 – I found out that my husband continued his affair. I phoned the other woman. She was relieved to speak to me. Not only do unfaithful spouses manipulate the wife they manipulate the other woman too. She says she has never had feelings like that for anyone ever. What do I do with […]   Read more »

QUESTION: Our children are ages 11 and 13. Since I found out about my husband’s affair, unfortunately I know there are times when they have overheard us arguing, and I feel ashamed about that. I’m afraid they may have overheard the word “affair.” Should we talk to our children about the affair? There is no […]   Read more »

There is often a desire NOT to have your grown children know. However in the final end being honest with our children about these things tends to have the opposite effect than we initially think. That said timing is important. Here are some benefits and why you should tell your adult children about the affair […]   Read more »

Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do. – Pope John XXIII “To give up. God! What a bell of freedom that […]   Read more »

Should you tell others about your spouse’s affair? This is a personal decision, and there is certainly no one size fits all answer. As with all issues pertaining to affairs, I recommend that you get as much perspective as possible, and then decide for yourself. In the final end, the only one who will live […]   Read more »

Question: “Dear Anne – In your book you wrote that you realized your husband was having a full-blown sexual relationship with another woman, yet, you also allowed him to have intimate relations with you while you knew the affair was going on. Did you not think or did you wonder if it was still “safe” […]   Read more »