Category Archives: 2013 archives

Question: Dear Anne – How can I make it through today? (Valentine’s Day) It’s supposed to be a day about love, and all I can think of is how I am not loved. Answer: I understand. It does hurt to think of Valentines Day, when you are in the throws of affair recovery. Some keys […]   Read more »

Question: What do you think the boundaries need to be in a marriage in re: to the opposite sex?  Should they have friendships with the opposite sex? And if so, what kind? My husband and I were out shopping the other day and we ran into a woman that we have both met a couple of […]   Read more »

Question #1 about affair confrontation Dear Anne – I have found 100’s of text messages on my husband’s cell phone between him and a woman he works with. In these text messages they tell each other “I love you” and other sexual things. When I go to see my husband at work I see the […]   Read more »

Dear Anne – Thank you for your Website. Have you or anyone you’ve coached dealt with a husband who has hired prostitutes? My husband has been cheating for 7 years. He still will not answer questions, except that he has “hired prostitutes”. It has been a very long crisis that never seems to go away […]   Read more »

Attitude by Chuck Swindoll The longer I live the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do … It is […]   Read more »

Question: “Why can’t I let go and move on with our marriage of 25 years? Do I need therapy? Thanks for your input!!!!!” Answer: I would need a bit more information about your situation to answer your question more specifically. If you’re dealing with the pain of your spouse’s affair, the situation has to be […]   Read more »

Dear Anne – I am noticing that I am entering a new stage of grief. I am struggling with finding the line between contributing to some of our marital problems, and causing his infidelity. My heart and brain say 2 different things. Can you explain this? Answer: The more I learn about extramarital affairs, the […]   Read more »

Have you ever thought of how special you are? We can view our identity from two different perspectives, a miracle created by God, or a miracle converging from millions of years of evolution. Whichever way you choose to see the world, you are a miracle, and you are very special. Most betrayed spouses find their […]   Read more »

Mother’s Day is like Christmas. While commercials would lead us to believe money can buy happiness, the idealized pictures of family bliss flashing across our television screens are often not reality. For many affair survivors, Mother’s Day is a difficult trigger to get through, rather than a day of celebration to anticipate with joy. Allow […]   Read more »

Dear Anne & Brian – My husband and I have been together 20 years and I had an affair.  He immediately went and started dating someone, even before he left me.  We separated for one month then he decided to give me another chance and rebuild our marriage.  We have been back together for 3 […]   Read more »