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Trusting again after infidelity

May 25, 2015 5:06 pm Anne Bercht

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Recorded on June 23, 2010 - Trusting again after infidelity. – How can you know for sure if the affair is over? – How can you trust again? – How can you ever feel safe and secure again?

This entry was posted in How to rebuild a marriage after an affair on May 25, 2015 by Anne Bercht.
Posted on May 25, 2015 at 5:06 pm by Anne Bercht

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    • Key # 1 to Getting Unstuck – Whatever You Focus on Expands
    • Emotional Intelligence
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    • What happens if the cheating spouse loves the other woman or man?
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    • Reclaiming the Affair Territory!
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    • Betrayed Spouses
    • Dealing with Obsessive Thoughts
  • For the Unfaithful Spouse
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    • When you fall in love with your affair partner
    • Healing your marriage after your affair
    • Help for Unfaithful Wife
    • How Can You Put an Extramarital Affair Behind You If You Continue to Discuss It?
    • What if my wife wants to read emails from an affair?
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    • How to heal your marriage after an affair
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    • How to discuss the affair
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    • Affair Prevention 101
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    • When past abuse hinders affair recovery
    • Biblical Example Child from an Affair
    • When there is a child from an affair
    • Multiple Affairs – When Your Spouse Has Had More Than One Affair…
    • Are Emotional Affairs Cheating? If Affairs Happen Once, Are They Destined to Happen Again? Is it Ever Possible to Move on from the Hurt and Mistrust?
    • Extramarital Affairs & Sexual Addiction Involving prostitutes, massage parlors, pornography, one night stands, fetishes and other sexually deviant behaviors
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    • Dealing with Workplace Affairs
    • When your spouse cheats with a close friend
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    • Healing from an affair when you are facing divorce
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    • How to cope with wife having an affair
    • Gender differences in infidelity
    • Healing a marriage after an affair
    • Unique Challenges – when the wife has an affair
    • Mike and Kim share their story
    • When the wife cheats
    • Greg & Daphne – She had the affair
    • Denis and Andrea – She had the affair
    • When your wife cheats on you …
  • Why do affairs happen?
    • Causes of Infidelity
    • Why Do People Have Affairs?
    • Regrets – The Fine Line Between Contributing to Marital Problems and Causing Infidelity
    • How Could He/She Do This to Me? – Betrayed Spouses Ask By Anne Bercht
    • Can wives prevent husbands from having affairs? – August 26, 2013
    • Why Affairs Happen and How to Prevent Them by Anne Bercht

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